When you daydream about your wedding ceremony, do you envision yourself vowing to love, honor and protect your beloved as per tradition, or do you wish to exchange vows that are more tailored to your relationship? If you prefer the latter, you and your partner will likely be writing your own vows. This is a once-in-a-lifetime event, so you want to be sure your words strike the right chord of sentimentality and personal significance. (No pressure!) Hidden Creek Events knows how important it is to get everything just right on your special day, so here are some of our best tips for crafting the perfect promises to make at the altar.

Tip 1: Get the Timing Right

Even the most gifted writers seldom get it right on the first try. The rest of us need time to find the right words and revise them, sometimes several times. With that in mind, give yourself a generous head start before your wedding. Some couples start working on their vows as soon as they get engaged, while others wait until just a week or two before the ceremony, after most of the frantic planning is finished. It’s really never too early to start, but there is something to be said for waiting until things have calmed down and you can give your vows your undivided attention.

Tip 2: Reflect on Your Love

Did you and your partner meet in a memorable way? What attracted you to them? When did you know they were the one you wanted to spend your life with? Which of their qualities make you smile? What can you promise that would mean the world to them? Put it in the vows! These are the elements and stories that will make your vows uniquely yours.

Tip 3: Inject Some Humor

It can be risky to crack jokes during emotional moments, but as long as you follow some guidelines, you should be just fine. First, make sure the humorous anecdote is lighthearted and kind-spirited. It should be a story that paints your beloved in a good light, not something that causes them embarrassment. Second, don’t overdo it. Humor should punctuate your vows for maximum impact, not overpower their solemn message. Finally, get second opinions from someone whose judgement you trust. If you decide not to use a joke or anecdote in the vows, you can always put it in a wedding speech.

Tip 4: Hire a Ghostwriter

Seriously. If you have a message in mind but can’t arrange the words how you like, there’s no shame in some professional help! Ghostwriters, sometimes referred to in the wedding industry as “vow whisperers”, can help you overcome writer’s block, help you find more details to add to your vows, and stay true to your voice and tone so that everyone knows the vows are coming from your heart.

Tip 5: Breathe. You’ve Got This.

The most beautiful words are the ones spoken with love. You don’t have to be a poet or use flowery language to write meaningful vows that you’ll cherish and uphold. All you have to do is be sincere, and your words will have the impact you want them to have.

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