Your wedding should be about you and your partner’s love and commitment to one another, but what do you do when one of your bridesmaids is making your special day all about her? It can be hard to deal with a bridesmaid who’s trying to take the spotlight on your special day, but that doesn’t mean you should fire her just yet. Here are a few things you can try before pulling the plug on a difficult bridesmaid.
Clearly Communicate Your Boundaries
Being trusted as the bridesmaid is a big responsibility, and it’s important for your bridesmaids to know what they’re getting into earlier in the planning process. Be sure to tell your bridesmaids what kind of ceremony you want, what you expect every one of them to help with, and what you’re not willing to change. It’s your wedding day after all, so don’t let any of your bridesmaids take away your vision. They should also know about how much they’re expected to spend on things like dresses and flowers for the ceremony and any events you want them to arrive at. Setting clear expectations and boundaries allows you to take control of your wedding planning before a pushy bridesmaid can jump in to change it.
Keep her at a Healthy Distance
If your bridesmaid is taking over your wedding planning process, try giving her smaller assignments to keep her busy. Instead of taking her to tour venues with you, ask her if she can take on tasks like putting favors together or sending invitations out. This helps you keep her at a distance from your biggest wedding decisions while still letting her feel involved. You can’t take care of everything on your own, so don’t be afraid to hand off smaller tasks when your bridesmaid tries to take control of your wedding plans.
Be Prepared to Have a Talk with her
If nothing else works, just be honest with your bridesmaid. Tell her how much you appreciate her dedication, but that you want to experience the wedding planning process with your fiance. This might be hard for your bridesmaid to hear at first, but she’ll be receptive to what you’re saying if she cares about you. Tell her how she can be more supportive, and listen to anything she might have to say.
If your bridesmaid keeps being pushy after you’ve had a talk with her, it might be time to kindly ‘fire’ her. Not all friends are cut out to be bridesmaids, and you can find another person to fill her shoes.
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