How To Include Your Future Mother-in-Law in Wedding Planning

Your engagement is the perfect time to pamper and promote a loving and positive relationship with your future mother-in-law, use this time wisely to get to know your future mother-in-law. 

Even for brides who have an awesome mother-in-law-to-be and an awesome relationship with her, your groom’s mom is just never going to have the same involvement in your wedding planning as your own mother. Now is the time to foster a good relationship with her. 

During all of the pre-wedding arrangements, the mother of the groom can feel left out of the fun. Traditionally, she doesn’t have many responsibilities on the big day, but you don’t have to make her feel like she has to wear beige and be silent!

Ask Her What She’d Like to Help You With

Just ask her if she wants to help with anything in particular, and you’ll likely find out she has a few talents that can really add to your wedding. And of course, she’ll get time to bond with you as you discuss the plans together. Odds are she has some expertise and recommendations to contribute. Maybe she’s amazing at arts and crafts and would love to make custom invitations for you. Or perhaps she knows the owner of a great wedding venue and can help you rent it out for your special day.

Ask What Her Wedding Day Was Like

You are excited to talk about your upcoming wedding, your mother-in-law most likely feels the same way about her special day, ask her how it went. Let her tell you what went right and what went wrong, and let her show you the pictures to prove it. She might even ask if you’d like to use something from her wedding, such as a beautiful piece of jewelry. This is a great opportunity for the two of you to bond even more.

Go with Her Shopping for Mother-of-the-Groom Dresses

Your special day will be mostly about you, but the planning process leading up to it doesn’t have to be. Give your future mother-in-law her own special time by meeting up to shop for her mother-of-the-groom dress. You’ll get some time to bond, and you’ll also get to give your input on which gowns you like best for her to wear to your wedding.

Ask Her Advice on the Wedding Registry

If you’re feeling overwhelmed, take your future mother-in-law with you to add items to your registry. This is especially helpful if you’re not sure what you need in your kitchen beyond the basics. Let her help you.

Invite Her to Wedding-Related Meetings

You don’t have to invite her to every meeting. Pick a few that she might be interested in or at least anything she is involved with planning or paying for.

Encourage Your Fiancé to Get His Mom Involved

Your future mother-in-law will most likely love getting to know you, but she’d probably also love to know her own son wants her involved with the wedding. So make sure he’s the one to ask for her help once in a while.

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